As much as we all love to win, we often learn the most when we fail. This urges the question: what do you consider / define as failing? The word failing sounds negative, but is it? If you learn the most from failing, and improve because of it…maybe it’s not as negative of an experience as we socially define it as. Let’s look back at a goal you did not achieve, an experience where you tried and failed.

Think of a goal you had set for yourself, yet did not achieve.

1) Why did you set this goal in the first place?
2) At the time, how did not achieving the goal make you feel?
3) Looking at the motivation behind your goal, were you intrinsically or extrinsically motivated?
4) Think of why you did not achieve your goal. Was this goal as important to you as you originally thought it was? Did something change in your motivation? Take full accountability for this answer (displacing blame on the situation, a person, or other outside circumstance will not allow us to take full ownership of this learning experience).
5) Was there anything you learned about yourself from not achieving this goal? For example, how you respond to failure or learning what makes you happy?

 Next time you “fail”, ask yourself the questions above. Whether we achieve our goals or not, we are given the opportunity to learn something new about ourselves and test our boundaries. 

As I love to say to my clients when I take them through a balancing pose,“I don’t care if you fall (or fail). What I care about is how you respond to falling. And if you never fall, you might want to ask yourself, are you taking yourself to your true edge?”

For our free worksheet on Creating your own Personal Philosophy, to help guide you in making choices out of opportunity, not fear, click here.

AYT Philosophy - Your Personal Philosophy Worksheet

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